Thursday, June 23, 2011

Are you really LIVING YOUR Way????

Hi Guys.... Today an awesome thing happened and this led me to writing of this new post. I played volleyball after so many years and that too good enough to get satisfied. :) .. Well since I have come back to my apartment I have smile on my face and a good feeling. When I analysed it , it came out to be those games of volleyball that I played there on the court. I was shocked to feel that way. Why??? Because since last 6 years or so I think of sports as something which is not at all my cup of tea. But here I shall mention that during my school times I was crazy about volleyball. I played in Indore, Bangalore and Delhi. Used to feel so passionate about it during those days that even in summers , under the scortching heat I used to play it. My nose used to bleed because of some nerves problem .. but I used to play. But I really dont know when and how it just got out of my life... And I completely forgot about all that since years. This has somewhere infact come as a shock to me that the thinking that I used to have since last couple of years was actually a myth. The question is not just that one should play sports. Now I put up the ultimate question -- Have you really being living your life your way in these years???????.. ... Just question yourself that have you also, like me, somewhere forgotten some passion of yours and could feel revived if it comes back... We tend to get mad so much into this competetive world that probably to compete with mates we stopped giving time to such inner passions and go to coachings to learn bloody C++, Java, .NET.. Friends, there may be something of this sort which probably if you start again then you will gain back that momentum in life and feel good about everything in your current day-to-day life. Do give it a thought.. this is a really serious question to figure out ...BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!!!

P.S. - Today I remember couple of my friends from past, whom I used to enjoy playing volleyball with... Sagun Nagar, a friend from Delhi.. we both used to play volleyball with a school team daily in morning and used to cherish that everyday... miss u bhai.. Prakhar Dadhich.. the friend with whom I joined classes to learn volleyball when we were kids... Love you too bro.. Nishant (from SICA ) .. i dont know wherer is he currently .. but I still rmember his expertise in foot-volleyball.... All your guys faces were flashing infront of me today.. Bless you guys.. :) ..

Extension from Friends:
Aashita Sharma: life is all about perseverance.if you have decided to pursue something, you'll definitely find time for that. We let our childhood passions die for the sake of bigger things in life but actually bigger things give pleasure only when the smaller ones are retained.i've seen that even if m doing good in career but if i dont extract time for drawing (which is my passion), i begin to feel a lack of colours in life.and if someday everythin is against me,if i just take a paper n pencil n sketch something, then with each line being sketched, a sense of peace surrounds me n by the time i finish with it,i find myself smiling.this has happened a lot many times. Actually such predilections are the ones that we develop in our childhood, with a pure heart and so they, without our knowledge contribute to our real self. That is why when suddenly someday a forgotten childhood liking comes our way, we are able to realise the real self that we were missing. However busy we
may get, however successful we may become but such small n precious childhood hobbies n inclinations must always be kept intact for they treasure the real "us".

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Difference between feeling something completely versus feeling it partially to certain extent....

This article is written by me while being in a deep thought process when I was emotionally feeling grief about something and I tried to sing ( for those who don't know, I can sing a bit ) but I was not able to produce actual SUR. My voice was shaking. At that moment I remembered words of Rahat Fateh Ali khan Sahab that you must feel the actual pain to sing a song , which depicts pain, in a perfect manner. But when I tried to sing some song to placate myself I was not able to sing it at all though I knew that I was feeling every nuance of that grief. At that moment of time I realized a thing - When you are actually in pain you become helpless. If we take the analogy of great sufi singers also, that they are able to feel the pain of every song they sing then I think we are wrong. They are like those well wishers or good friends in our lives who can just see things superficially, howmuchever they try , because at last they are able to do all other stuff of regular routine of their lives, like they are able to still sing the songs with perfection without their own voice trembling, but we who actually are suffering, are not able to do any stuff properly, similar to the situation where I was not able to sing at all at that very moment. I dont know whether this content is good enough to explain my point , so I will phrase it in single line - I have nothing against any friend or my well wishers but the truth is that howmuchever they try I am the only person who can understand the actual grief or problem that I am going through and struggling with, but still I am thankful to them that during that time when I am not able to speak up because my voice is shaking they help me and sooth me by understanding the grief to certain extent if not fully.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

HI GUYS!!!!! A Welcome Note

Hi friends. I am Akshay Agrawal. An engineer by profession. I know that it makes no sense to come up with this welcome note after 3 articles. But I was just waiting for some of my friends to read them already so that when I wirte this welcome note I feel that I am communicating with atleast someone. I would jut like to describe the cause of creating this blog. First of all I would like to say that i am not a good writer, that everyone could see by the poor construction of the content in the posts. But one thing used to bet here with me. That I used to have discussions with my friends on almost anything and my friends used to appreciate my point of views. I could not start this blog since so much time but suddenly with the first article I felt that this is a satisfying thing to do. Hence I have started it. I welcome everyone here. I am open to making new and great friends. I hope we form a large group here by which I could also improve and get more satisfied. ;) .

A simple analogy for MTV True Life

I really am liking to see some of the episodes of MTV true life. For those who dont know what is it about - MTV true life is about some individuals who have some typical inherent characteristics in their nature or life which leads them to take their life in a different way than the general people. For example, one of the episode depicts an individual who enjoys and gets satisfied by his own pain, and that he accepts in a pure form to lead his life with satisfaction and happiness because he knows that finally he is not harming anyone including himself. Though I am not interested to try out such intense ways of satisfaction , one thing I really realized was that everyone does believe that something is typically odd about him that is going on to which he or she doesn't understand the cause of and are fearful of future due to that. I will just discuss a simple example - a guy has a problem that he can't be alone for the whole weekend at home probably though other friends of his are easily able to be at home with their laptop watching movies and doing fine. Actually the guy has the problem of feeling himself completely out of place even if he is left alone for a single eve. I know this is not a very great example but I would just like to say that there is no problem with the guy in the example to worry about. He just has a different perception of a blank weekend. As depicted in the serial , MTV true life, the youth must try and analyze these odd things about themselves, take them positively and come up with good enough remedies to tackle this rather than feeling out of place. Another example which comes to my mind is of a guy who likes to flirt with gals initially but then later on he develops a very good and supportive friendship with them. Though he may be guilty initially that he must not play around with gals emotions but the truth is that finally it comes to good end. So what to be guilty about. You may take somethings a bit differently initiially but if they lead to good and satisfaction then you must accept them positively. I hope that this perception of mine about MTV true life helps some people who feel out of the place or get tensed about some of their habit and reactions.

P.S. - I have taken this kind of topic for the first time into writing. So please respond in a constructive manner if the content was not having much flow according to you. Positive feedback is welcomed. :)

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Lady - You MUST have had taken STAND!! Atleast for THEM.

I am writing this content to gather discuss a common issue and gather people’s views on this. This is a common issue that most of the simple Indian ladies, who are housewives, are facing.This is the problem of bad marriage. I am not using the term “Failed Marriage” because we know that in India there are so many examples of bad marriages but still small ratio of divorces to those marriages.A bad marriage is one where the wife is simple or I must say JUST NOT COMPATIBLE with her husband [ in high societies] and where the husband is a bullshit [ lower grade society]. In both the cases the environment of the home is not very good for children. Well we see many organisations who have stood up to take care of such things. They say that women are suffering alot in such situations. That is true. They try to motivate ladies who are victim of such cases to fight for their rights, their own future and many other things. But I think today I have a much better point to motivate them. Let us go through a general story. In a home [ if you can call it a home ], the husband used to treat his family very badly. The mom used to somehow manage to keep the kid physically away from this in hope that the kid won’t ever develop any bad psychology due to this. Many a times she was advised to take up a stand and get separated. But she would act typically like a bhartiya naari. And also would say that I am fearful and what is the necessity. I am able to keep my son out of this all and bare everything on myself. I think I will be able to sustain. Years passed and she used to be recognized for her patience. Her son became a part of youth. Got a job and went to some other state far away from his native one. But their he faced a major problem. He was having habit to try and gain sympathy .Ofcourse we know that someone who has nature to gain sympathy is always bullied. Well can you answer at this point why kid had this problem though according to his mother he was given a proper atmosphere?? Well the answer lies here. Though mother never used to say directly anything to her son but used to remain sad and always in habit to seek someone to share and gain sympathy in a positive sense to feel that atleast there is someone. Now I ask you all that what will this have an impact on a kid. He will obviously learn the same if he is simple at heart. And later he faces the problem in his life. Just if the lady would have understood that she must take some stand atleast for the sake of her son then he would not be facing this all in his life.
I hope everyone sees here that just to stick to typical BHARTIYA NAARI PRATHA where the husband was not at all acting like a BHARTIYA SABHYA MANUSHYA , she unknowingly made her son suffer. Hence, I want to request all those ladies who are doing the same mistake to ATLEAST TAKE SOME STAND otherwise your CHILDREN are for sure to suffer.

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Were you really MOTIVATED??

I want to bring everyone's attention to a major problem that the youth from normal engineering colleges in India is facing. This is the problem of false kind of motivation. I remember myself and couple of my friends eating snacks in canteen when suddenly a concerned friend among us would say - "We must start studying friends. It is almost mid of the semester and we have not studied a single word!!", and majority replying to him- "Dude! We will be able to do everything at the end as we have done till now in previous semesters. Anyways howmuchever we will try the actual studies will be done during last two nights". Well, after saying all this everyone used to feel that the concerned guy was stupid and the others in majority were brave and intelligent enough to do everything in last. This was the semester long routine since 1st semester till 8th semester of bachelors degree. No one ever tried to think beyond about the human nature or principles that was causing this phenomenon. Though everyone used to see daily that some IITian has developed some gadget, some MIT student has developed a novel algorithm, no one ever thought that the kind of motivational thoughts that they were encountering during the semester exams were really motivating enough to lead them to produce an example like an IITian or MIT student. I would mention one more thing about the exam times which might partially give the answer to the issue that I just broguht up. During the actual exam times , on the night just previous to the exam, everyone used to be silent and just studying , studying, studying to complete half the course. the next day 75% of paper used to have patent questions and rest 25% were new enough that whatever you write as their answers you will be getting atleast half the marks. Finally, results used to be out and everyone who got 65% or more used to be walking with immense pride and confidence. Now I ask everyone , "What is the motivational feeling that you see here?". I see MOTIVATION DUE TO FEAR. Just one day before the exam when everyone used to be immensely fearful they used to study alot. If we compare that situation from what prevails now in their jobs or in general in their life then I don't think that something is fearsome enough as exam. Now NO EXAM NO MOTIVATION. Friends, this is the problem that mediocre engineering college students are facing these days in India. they are not able to learn the most important thing i.e. finding the right way to motivate themselves and finding the right reasons for it. Magnanimous inventions don't take place without motivation. Now there are long term deadlines in life to tackle and dedicate to, but you can't remain fearful for months or years together to remain motivated. During college times it used to be matter of 1-2 weeks, and hence the motivation used to pay off positively. I hope this point brought up by me is taken up properly by the young students still in college.

P.S. : Some might argue after reading the above content that they gained lot courage to handle situations where there are surprises and sudden attacks or very less time left. I do accept that motivation due to fear gives you this confidence but what about the other times when there are no sudden surprises or when you have enough time to prepare a lot but then because you just get motivated to work at last you produce minimum amount of work?