Probably in last couple of years I did not feel very much out of place ever and hence never realized this thing which you guys must have had experienced much before. I am talking about the changes that occur in your environment when you change your living city and hence your surroundings. I used to hear elders saying that changes are bound to occur in future which might change one completely. But frankly telling , I never undderstood the gravity of the statement. But today I have changed my belonging completely and now I realize the concept behind that statement. In this post I will just discuss a small example. Being an Indori I have this nature inherent in me : "arey bhai koi na yaar tere liye toh jaan bhi haazir hai, tu jahan bolega vahan chalenge, jo bolega voh karenge". Even in scortching heat if a friend is stuck somewhere on the road with some problem in his car we are there pushing his car to get it started. I never remember myself giving it a second thought before calling my friend for help or asking him to push my car when battery was down. IT WAS SO OBVIOUS!! THAT SEEMED TO BE THE ULTIMATE TRUTH AND WAY OF LIVING LIFE!! But what now?? why things are not that obvious?? Why do I give it a second thought ?? It all starts when you ask for something in an obvious manner and get a not so obvious answer.. :P .. "Come on dude! are you nuts! I am not getting out of my home in this heat!! ".. hehe.. It is in these sudden situations that you start hearing that voice from your inside which says to you that - "My boy ! nothing is obvious!! you have to be now more cautious!!" This voice soon talks to you even more and you CHANGE!!.. Hehe .. Finally you HAVE TO CHANGE and infact YOU WILL CHANGE !! :) ..
- Probably the ultimate key is ultimate independence. !!
A lot of people can definitely relate to this article. Its very well written. When an environment changes, it creates a void and a strange type of restlessness in the heart. We long for things which are familiar to us, our comfort zone. We tend to lose our confidence and become more sensitive to things. However, over time, the new environment slowly becomes your comfort zone, and then you start noticing your old self returning. Some of your habits will change, as it must….. but for the most part, it would be quite easy to remain who you are (if you wanted to.
ReplyDeleteI think this kind of feeling had come to all of us many many years ago, when we first started going to school. Our parents would drop us off to this new world full of children and teachers. There were new rules and regulations. We would hold on tightly to our mom’s aachal, so she wouldnt leave us in this strange world. A lot of us would also throw a fit at home so we wouldn’t be dropped off to school AGAIN the next day. There were some children who bullied us and others who stood up for us…..and slowly we changed ourselves a bit to adjust to the new world surrounding us.
The example you provided of friendship and relying on them in times of need…… my take on that is that, it takes time to find TRUE friends.… the ones you can depend on. “koi na yaar tere liye toh jaan bhi haazir hai”…. but wouldn’t it take time to find that “koi na yaar”? Some people are quite lucky to have met great friends back in their old environments and new environments immediately. I, on the other hand, had just as much difficulty in finding the real friends and bumping into trouble makers, in both worlds. :) ;)
@desert Rose: You have written a complete article over here ...:) .. well thanks for appreciating and yes I accept that things do become casual after sometime.. but my main focus in the article was to point out the typical strange feeling which one feels and how does that play role for that small duration of time..
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ReplyDeleteI have to disagree with Desert Rose...a spell check and a grammar check is certainly required! In any case, as to your point about friendship, I have to say that friends are developed, not acquired. Secondly, there is a saying in South India that advises you not to break down a wall with your head just because you have a strong head. So in an emergency, sure, you can help your friend with his car even in 50C heat. But if it is not an emergency, why are YOU not considering your friend's comfort and waiting until evening when it is cooler? Why do you call your friend out in the blazing sun to test your friendship? Are you so unsure of where you stand with him? No one likes being tested all the time
ReplyDeleteIbn al duniya: dude i am not testing anyone.. I am just discussing here the change that comes in life when you change your region...I think you have misunderstood the point here..
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ReplyDelete@Desert Rose: Thanks for that.. Actually I am stuck up with work and hence I am not able to write. 2 days before I was emotional enough to write things but then had some work deadline.. :P. also I am not a regular writer. I just write when I feel that it will be FELT BY PEOPLE.. but i will try to write soon..
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